FINDING THE WORDS
What makes a good apology?
You do not need an impressive speech to apologize. A few honest sentences can be more useful than a long message filled with explanations.
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1. Take responsibility
Use “I” to describe what you did. Replace “I’m sorry you feel that way” with an acknowledgement of the action you regret.
2. Recognize the effect
Name the inconvenience or hurt you caused without assuming you know everything the other person feels. Leave room for their perspective.
3. Describe what changes
A specific next step gives your words substance. Promise what you can control, not that nothing difficult will ever happen again.
4. Let go of the outcome
An apology is offered, not traded for forgiveness. Avoid asking for an immediate reply or adding guilt about how hard apologizing has been for you.
A starting point, in your own words
I’m sorry I missed the deadline and left you to handle the work. I should have told you earlier that I was behind. I’ll send you a progress update tomorrow and flag delays before they affect you again.
Use this as inspiration. Change the details to reflect what actually happened and what you can genuinely commit to.
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